Parenting is hard. We try to always stay calm and set a good example for our kids, but when there’s an unpredictable toddler running about, causing all sorts of mischief, it’s more than a little tricky. Not to mention the fact that it’s very tiring, with most of our day spent looking after the kids, and the rest of it worrying about the kids! So, how do we make time for ourselves, and is it okay to want time for ourselves?

Yes! It’s absolutely okay to want some time to yourself. In fact, it’s absolutely necessary! We strongly believe that we can’t be our best selves if we’re feeling run-down and burned out, and that’s where self-care comes in.

So, first and foremost, what is parent self-care?

What is parent self-care?

As parents, our children are at the centre of our lives. We’re constantly running around for them, and even when we’re not with them, it feels as though there’s always something that has to be done. However, everyone needs their own time to refresh and nourish themselves.

Parent self-care is getting a bit of time to yourself each day to have a bath, read a book, get a bit of exercise in, or simply have a nap. But self-care is also letting go of any unhelpful notions you may have of parenthood. For example, it involves letting go of the idea of the perfect parent and acknowledging that we will make mistakes and that’s okay.

But why is this all so important?

Why is self-care so important?

Looking after both your physical and mental health will not only make you a happier and healthier person, but it will also allow you to be a better parent. If we’re feeling stressed and anxious inside, it’s next to impossible to appear cheery and calm on the outside, and besides that, taking care of yourself teaches your kids to do the same. Remember, you are their greatest role model.

So, how do we take care of ourselves while living busy parental lives?

How can I take care of myself as a parent?

Here are some ways in which you can improve your self-care as a parent:

Adjust your parenting mindset. When the going gets tough, remind yourself that we aren’t trying to be perfect parents - because there’s no such thing! We’re striving to be fun, loving parents who feel relaxed with our families. Let any feelings of guilt or inadequacy go!

Make sure you get a bit of exercise each day. Whether you go for a quick walk or jog, cycle around the block, or pop to the gym, exercise is a great way to take some time to take care of yourself! Not only does exercise improve your overall health, but it also helps to release endorphins that improve your mood and general wellbeing. And yes, chasing your toddler around the park counts as exercise too!

Eat healthily. When we cook for our kids and worry about their eating habits, we sometimes forget about ourselves. So make sure you’re getting enough food, a balanced diet filled with plenty of fruit and veg, and lots of water. However, don’t feel guilty about treating yourself to a pizza every now and again either.

Take some time for yourself. Whether you like to relax in the bath or curl up on the sofa with a good book, try to find some time for yourself each day. Even 10 minutes of quiet will make a big difference to your mood.

Ask for help. When you’re feeling burned out, ask friends or family members for help. Have them look after the kids while you cuddle up in bed and binge your favourite TV show. If you’re feeling highly anxious or depressed, then don’t hesitate to speak to a doctor or therapist. There’s absolutely no shame in this!

Start and end the day right. Some parents like to begin the day with some meditation or journaling, others like to do a few yoga stretches to some calming music. Try to find an activity that helps you relax and feel good at the beginning of the day. Similarly, make up an evening routine that helps you let go of any tension built up over the day. We recommend writing down 3 things that went well during the day that you feel grateful for.

How can I improve my self-care as a parent?

Part of being a good parent is having the resources to cope.