The decision to have a baby is exciting, but trying to conceive can be stressful and anxiety-inducing, especially if it doesn’t happen right away. After years of sex being a fun way to connect with your partner, the self-imposed pressure to make a baby result from any given encounter can make it seem perfunctory, even unpleasant. Learning to manage any preconception stress or anxiety can benefit your fertility as well as your mental health. In this article, we aim to help you do just that.

Take care of yourself.

Stress and anxiety subside naturally when you practice self-care. Take time for things you enjoy, especially if these activities are health- or relaxation-related. Think yoga, meditation, and reading books with happy endings. We probably don’t need to remind you to eat well, get enough sleep, and take regular exercise. These really are the best ways to feel better in your own skin and will enhance your chances of fertility while reducing stress. Mens sana in corpore sano.

Connect with your partner on every level.

Trying for a baby puts physical pressure on both partners. You may be having more sex than ever before but not connecting as often personally. Nobody understands what you are going through like your other half, so discuss your feelings and emotions as frequently as possible. You are on the same team and can beat preconception anxiety together.

Reach out to friends and family.

Some couples conceive without even thinking about it, but still others will play the waiting game. Reach out to friends and family you can trust and enjoy stories about how their patience and perseverance paid off. They may be able to share advice as well as offer a safe space for you to air your feelings.

Find different ways to chill out.

Destress with mindful breathing, visualisation techniques, and whichever kind of meditation works for you. Try to go to them in moments of high anxiety. There is nothing wrong with a good nap when you feel overwhelmed, if you can manage it.

Set realistic goals.

Conception is different for every couple, and if you’ve asked your doctor when it will happen for you, it is likely the answer was not straightforward. Remember that the average time it takes to get pregnant is about six months to a year, and various health and lifestyle factors can impact your odds. Be patient and gentle with yourself and your partner. Setting realistic expectations can help reduce stress and anxiety around conceiving your baby.

Focus on what you can control.

There is only so much you can do, as far as your fertility and conception are concerned. Making healthy lifestyle choices and getting regular check-ups are positive steps towards your goals that will make you feel a bit more empowered while improving your mental and physical health overall.

Seek counselling

People cope with anxiety and stress differently, and if these feelings are disrupting your everyday life, it may be time to reach out to a mental health professional. CBT or other therapies you may learn from them can also help boost your fertility through stress management.

How can I manage anxiety and stress while trying to get pregnant?

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