You feel like you’re being pulled in all directions. You’re thinking about dinner while at work. You’re thinking about your toddler when you’re spending some time with friends. And not only that, but you’re thinking about a billion different things when you’re trying to engage with your little one. You think to yourself - How can I stay present and give my toddler the attention they deserve?

It’s hard being a modern parent, especially when the world demands more and more of your time and is full of distractions. Yet, we all know how important it is to give your child attention when spending time with them - it helps create a healthy emotional bond with your little one.

Thankfully, we’ve got the solution to help you focus on what’s really important in life: Your toddler.

How can I stay present with my toddler?

Focus on doing one task at a time. It’s hard, we know, but you’re not really going to be listening to your child if you have your back to them whilst preparing something in the kitchen. Instead, tell them that you’d love to hear what they have to say as soon as you’re finished. Or, you could momentarily stop what you’re doing to turn around and listen to them. This sets clear boundaries for when you can give your full, undivided attention. In your everyday life, try to get in the habit of reminding yourself, whatever you’re doing, to give it your full attention and concentration.

Use a notebook. It can be annoying when your brain gets a brilliant idea at the wrong time, or you suddenly remember something. A notebook can help to jot any ideas down, which you can then fully process later, allowing you to continue paying attention to your little one.

Be conscious of how much technology you use. Phones are unavoidable in this modern age. We rarely switch off from it, constantly checking social media and emails. Make a conscious effort not to look at it when you’re engaging with your child. Try putting it in a different room, or use a “lock-out” app that restricts your social media use for a set amount of time. Not only can this help you remain present for your toddler, but it can set them a good example about responsible technology usage.

Practice meditation and mindfulness. Our minds can so easily get frazzled and cluttered from all the day’s work and tasks. Take a moment to practice some meditation and mindfulness. This can help to calm and ease your body and your mind. For example, try breathing exercises that can help to clear your mind’s constant chatter. Just be still and live in the moment.

Being in the present makes space for those precious connecting and bonding moments with our child. Practising these strategies will make it easier over time to get ourselves in a clear headspace, so we can engage with them. Not only does it give your child the attention they deserve, but it gives you the time and space to get away from the thousands of thoughts rattling in your head.

And guess who’s best at living in the present? Your toddler. Look at them and observe how they live in the moment. Follow them and learn.

What are four key tips for staying present with my toddler?

Unii looks at some ways to live in the moment with your little one.